Preparing myself mentally for the feeling of loss I have Every. Single. Time.
The loss of my constant companions.
I love the noise of the Summer holidays with my crew of five.
Listening to the slow drizzle of small humans into the lounge room in the morning to snuggle with each other on the couch to watch cartoons.
The same cartoons I snuggled on the couch to watch with my siblings all those years ago.
Easing into breakfast that is more like morning tea by the time the hunger calls them to the table.
Weet-Bix is devoured and so the day goes.......
Mumma in the kitchen.
Meals driven by hunger....not by the clock and need to keep routines.
Pyjamas are the clothing of choice.
And then WHOOSH.......
Just like that the house falls silent.
My Summer companions are back at school.
Every holidays I start with this nagging sense that because we have chosen to have a big family it means that I have to say 'No' to a lot of requests.
The disparity between the ages makes doing a lot of things really really hard.
Dragging the littlest around to activities that the older kids like is just asking for meltdown city.
It usually ends in tears. Mine mostly.
I have talked to another friend- who is a mumma of many- of this conflict.
The feeling that the big ones give up a lot because of the little ones.
I think about it a lot.
I have talked to my mum about it. Also an experienced mumma of many.
There is no denying the feelings are there.
What I looked for this holidays was what my lot gain by being in a family of many.
No matter our family- the size, the type, the way we parent- we all strive for this feeling of 'Getting it Right'.
At least not all the time.
But we can try to give our kids the best we can.
And my kids genuinely enjoy being with each other.
On reflection of this Summer holiday just about to end...... I am happy that I have given my kids space, time & freedom to be.
To be a friend.
To be an explorer.
To be a thinker.
To be a scientist.
To be a musician.
To make mistakes.
To be a learner.
To be a cook.
To just be........
Perhaps they don't miss out on that much after all.
GOURMET GIRLFRIEND'S EDAMAME & TOFU:
Summer holidays and hungry tummies means dinner time comes & a mad scramble to satisfy the Hangriness (hungry= angry)!
This is a quicky but a goodie!
I always have a supply of frozen Edamame. And i usually have various types of Tofu around too.
This meal is perfect as I can get it to the table in the time it takes the rice to cook- 15 minutes!
It is super nutritious and soooooo good!
WHAT YOU WILL NEED:
- 1 packet of frozen soybeans
- 1 packet of marinated spicy tofu (from Asian grocer- or substitute with firm tofu)
- 1 red chilli
- 4 cloves garlic
- szechuan pickled veg - or I used fresh Wombok
- 1 tablespoon oyster sauce
- 1 tablespoon fish sauce
- 1 tablespoon sugar
Heat a pan or wok to a high temp.
Add a tablespoon of oil.
Add cabbage and garlic & chilli.
Fry till fragrant & cabbage is soft.
Stir till edamame is defrosted.
Add oyster sauce, fish sauce and sugar.
Heat through and serve with fluffy rice.